Emerson Teaching Love & Respect at Postma Center

Dr. Eggerichs will be speaking to clinicians and church staff on September 17

Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, author of the nationally acclaimed best selling book, "Love and Respect" will be taking a break from his busy schedule of speaking to churches to present the clinical components behind his popular marital program.

Love and Respect have been identified time and again by research on marriage and families, as Gottman among others identified these two qualities as essential in building positive sentiment override in relationships.  Creating this helps couples in establishing new patterns and helps create a reservoir of marital strength.  Ultimately these patterns become the basis for marital repair and interaction during periods of change, crisis and conflict.

In this "train the trainer" workshop, the morning event will be a lecture for clinicians with a separate luncheon afterward specifically for pastors and church leaders.

How much do you know about marriage?

"Take The Case for Marriage" Quiz

1. Between 1979 and 1987, according to Justice Department statistics, what proportion of intimate violence against women was committed by husbands?

a. 1 percent

b. About half

c. Less than ten percent

d. One-third.

2. On average, how much more likely is a single woman to die than a married woman of the same age.

a. 50 percent

b. 0 percent

c. 200 percent

d. 10 percent

3. How many years does a parent's divorce knock off the life expectancy of their children, according to a study of a gifted, white, middle class sample.

a. Nothing. The apparent effects of marriage are really due to income

b. 6 months.

c. 4 years.

d. 2 years

4. True or False. Husbands make more money than bachelors, but marriage reduces a women's earnings.

5. True or False.  More married people cheat than couples who live together.

6. True or False. Marriage makes men happier, but women more depressed.

7. True or False. Single people are more likely to be "very happy" than married people.

8. True or false. Single mothers usually develop unusually close relationships with their children.

For the answers, click here.

What's different about couples who stay happily married?

We finally know ... 

It's not that they are better matched, better looking, more in love or more passionate. It's not that they have fewer differences or less to fight about. In fact, successful couples have the same number ofdisagreements as the couples who divorce.Even more interesting, all couples disagree about all the sameissues - money, kids, sex, housework, in-laws and time.

The difference between successful and unsuccessful

couples is how they handle their differences.  Successful couples disagree in a way that makes their relationship stronger.  They also have other skills, knowledge and attitudes which help them build and maintain long-term happiness and satisfaction.

The good news is that anyone can learn to do it better and smarter.  Couples can unlearn the behaviors that destroy love and replace them with the behaviors that keep love alive.  All couples need the same information and the same basic skills.  Couples can use the tools to build a good relationship from the ground up, to keep a good relationship healthy - or to rebuild a marriage or relationship that's seriously in need of repair.  It turns out you CAN learn how to get the feeling back.......and keep love alive.